During the divorce process and following the divorce decree, parents in New Mexico often face issues related to their child or children. Even when an amicable child custody arrangement is put in place, certain events could occur that cause some parents to seek modification or a slight change in plans. Holidays could cause this, and even though parents might have a plan put in place to address these issues, when a holiday is approaching some might get into disputes, seeking more parenting time.
With Halloween around the corner, some parents might face the obstacle of reaching an agreement with their ex regarding trick-or-treating and any festivities with the holiday. This is a fun time for kids, so parents should address this issue appropriately, avoiding any unnecessary stress or emotions.
In a co-parenting situation, each parent could take the child trick-or-treating individually or even together. This might be a good idea if parents are able to get along and still mingle in the same social circles. This could make the experience even more enjoyable for the children as well. Different tasks could be handed down to each parent. For example, the child can carve pumpkins with one parent and decorate the house with the other parent.
No matter what is decided, it is important that parents plan ahead so they can avoid scheduling issues and disputes. Furthermore, in these matters, it is important that parents make decisions and plan the holiday together. Children should not be left with the pressure to decide whom they want to spend time with.
Child custody arrangements can be very diverse and might now allow for a shared experience. Parents should understand that this might occur for any holiday and shouldn’t let it get them down. They should also ensure their child that it is okay. This could avoid an emotional situation that could leave a child feeling guilty. Whether parents have alternating holidays scheduled in their custody agreement or not, these issues could present themselves. Parents should understand how to address them in order to keep the best interest of the child in mind.
Source: Huffington Post, “Halloween Trick or Treat Tips for Parents With Kids of Divorce,” Diane L. Danois, Oct. 22, 2014